We all want to be happy. But we sometimes think of happiness as a thingthat happens to us — something we have no control over. It’s easy tolink the idea of happiness with the situation we’re in. We might tellourselves, “If only things were different, then I’d be happy.”
Researchers have found that more than half of happiness depends on things that are actually under our control. That’s really good news because it means everyone can be happier.
Happiness is more than a good feeling or a yellow smiley face. It’s thefeeling of truly enjoying your life, and the desire to make the verybest of it. Happiness is the “secret sauce” that can help us be and doour best.
The first step towards moving into a happy state is to understandthat happiness is something we need to learn and for some reason (thatwe will not discuss here), school teaches everything else but happiness. Use the “school of life” to practice happiness and remember that your“choice muscle” needs to be active all the time. Always notice you haveoptions in everything you do, think or feel, and that you choose thethings that are best for you.
Here are some specific tips you can blend into your every day:
13 practical skills you can practice to create happiness daily
Step 1 – SMILE
Smile a lot – If smiling is too hard for you, take a pencil and holdit with your teeth. There are enough smiling muscles involved for yourbrain to think you are smiling and start producing “happy” chemicals
Step 2 – SING
Sing! – Singing works just like smiling, causing your body to produce “feeling good” chemicals. Sing in the car, sing in the shower, singwhen you prepare dinner and sing when you feel frustrated and notice how the negative feelings melt away.
Step 3 – HAPPY PEOPLE
Hang around positive people – Having happy people around you willmake it easy to learn happiness. Happy people have fun around them andtheir ability to overcome challenges is higher than that of unhappypeople who tend to lay blame and feel victimized. Choose the people youhang out with to suit your needs.
Step 4 – LAUGH
Laugh – Much like smiling, laughter is a great way to overcomephysical and emotional challenges. If it does not happen naturally, trylaughter therapy.
Step 5 – BE ACTIVE
Get a move on – Being physically active makes you happy. Find someactivity you like to do and notice how it changes your mood: sex (yes,of course!), any kind of sport, dance and yoga. Make a habit of beingactive in any way you feel like.
Step 6 – GET CREATIVE
Get creative – Creativity is a great way to find happiness. Think ofcreative things people do for a living or as hobby and notice how muchhappiness it gives them. Paint, draw, dance, sculpt, do some craft,invent a gadget, cook something new, write poetry or tend the garden.Tap into your creative abilities and find your “happy spot”.
Step 7 – HUG
Hug – Hugging is a way to give and receive happiness. Physical touchis essential to your development and hugging is a great way to get thatphysical touch in a positive way. Hug a lot!
Step 8 – BE HAPPY
When in a conflict situation, remember that being happy and beingright do not necessarily go hand in hand. When in doubt, choosehappiness over being right.
Step 9 – IMAGINE A BRIGHTER FUTURE
When feeling down, recite to yourself “This too shall pass” and imagine a brighter future.
Step 10 – BE CHILDISH
Act like a child – Do childish things to feel young and fresh: jumpon a trampoline, sit on a swing and skip. Remember, “We do not stopplaying because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing”.
Step 11- BE KIND
Be kind – Do random acts of kindness every day. It can be as simpleas saying something nice, offering help, giving up your place in a queue or allowing another driver to enter a busy road.
Step 12 – BE GRATEFUL
Be grateful – Practice gratitude: say thank you for everything youhave and appreciate in your life. Gratitude is a way to increasehappiness and eliminate taking life for granted.
Step 13 – MEDITATE
Meditate! – Find a relaxation you feel comfortable with. Meditationrelaxes the mind. You can listen to music, use crystals, take a bath,use candles or repeat a mantra. All of these do the same thing. to yourmind. Take the time off every day to regenerate.
Editors Note: Feeling some positive emotions every day has a big effect on our happiness and well-being. That’s why it’s so important to do things that give us positivefeelings. Even simple actions like playing with a child or a pet orgoing for a walk outdoors can inspire these feelings.
Happiness increases when we discover a strength and practice it. Themore we practice a strength, the better we get until we really masterit.